Q & A
Q. Salam Brother! The brother mentioned that if you smile to your mother it’s rewarded as the reward of [a] pilgrimage. However, my mother has passed away. How may I attain such a reward?
The hadith mentioned in the question is that related by Ibn `Abbas (RA) who reported that the Prophet (SAW) said:
|No obedient child looks to his parents with a look of kindness,||
ما من ولد بار ينظر إلى والديه نظرة رحمة
|Except that Allah writes for him one reward of a Hajj for every look.||
إلا كـتـب الله له بكل نظرة حجــــة مبرورة .
|The companions asked: What, even if we look at them 100 times every day?||
قالوا: و إن نظر كل يوم مـــــائة مرة؟
|The Prophet replied: Yes. Allah is the most great and beneficent.||
قال: نعم . الله أكبر و أطيــــــــــــــــــــــب .
In fact, the hadith mentions “parents” (walidayhi) and not simply the mother. Thus, the reward is gained if one lovingly gazes or looks at his/her parents’ faces
Imam `Abd Allah b. `Alawi al-Haddad mentions the following:
“Just as it is obligatory to be dutiful to parents when they are alive, likewise one must be dutiful to them after they have passed away. This is [doing such things as] supplicating for them (al-du`a’); seeking forgiveness (al-istighfar) for them and their relatives as well as being kind to their friends (asdiqa’ihima) and their loved ones (wa mawaddatihima). All that is considered being completely [and totally] dutiful as found in the hadith.* In supplicating for the deceased and asking forgiveness for them is a great benefit and a person ought not to be negligent in that in the case of their parents specifically and in the case of close relatives and Muslims generally.”
* The hadith referred to above is that narrated by Rabi`ah al-Sa`idi by Abu Dawud in his Sunan:
O Messenger of Allah! Are there any rights left that I have to fulfil even after they both have died? The Prophet replied: Yes.
يا رسول الله! هل بقي من بر أبويّ شئ أبرهما به بعد موتهــما؟ قال: نعم .
|a. Praying for them.b. Seeking forgiveness for them.
c. Fulfilling the promises they have made.
d. Maintaining the relations on both their sides.
e. Honouring their friends.
1. الصلاة عليهما .
2. الإستغفار لهما .
3. إنفاذ عهدهما من بعدهـــما .
4. و صلة الرحم التي لا توصل إلا بهـــما .
5. و إكرام صديقهما .
Therefore, there are many things one can do when one’s parent(s) are no longer alive and present in order to gain the reward and hence pleasure of Allah. It must never be forgotten that duties towards parents do not cease with their death.
Allah alone knows best.
 Quoted in A. H. Jassat, Muslim Youth: Followers or Leaders, pp.67-68
 See Imam al-Haddad, al-Nasa’ih al-Diniyyah, p.284.
 See Abu Dawud, Sunan, hadith no.5142; Ibn Majah in his Sunan, hadith no.3664 and al-Tabrizi, Mishkat al-Masabih, hadith no.4936.
 It was also narrated by al-Bukhari, Adab al-Mufrad, hadith no.35, pp.25-26; Ahmad in the Musnad, 3/497; Abu Dawud, hadith no.5142 and Ibn Majah, hadith no.3664 in their Sunan; the Sahih of Ibn Hibban, hadith no.418; al-Tabarani, Mu`jam al-Kabir, hadith no.592 (vol.19); al-Hakimi in al-Mustadrak, vol.4, p.154 who declared it sahih and al-Dhahabi concurred; al-Bayhaqi in his Sunan, vol.4, p.28 and al-Asbahani, al-Targhib wa ’l-Tarhib, hadith no.436.