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Q. Practical change of the mind brother X mentioned. I know a brother who is addicted to drugs & acknowledges this. He is mentally & psychologically instable. He has no patience & concentration spam [sic.] so how do I help this brother, he finds Islamic talks boring and only thinks about drugs to calm him & his mind. I know a few brothers in similar situations, what advice would you give me!

A.

Imam al-Muhasibi advises:

“Know that whoever gives you sincere counsel, he in fact loves you and whoever cajoles[1] you, in fact has deceived you. Whoever does not accept your advice [and counsel] is not your brother. `Umar b. al-Khattab (RA) said: there is no good in a people who do not have those who give counsel [and advice] and there is no good in a people who do not love those who give advice [and counsel].”[2]

Arabic:

وأعلم أن من نصحك فقد أحبك، و من داهنك فقد غشك، و من لم يقبل نصيحتك فليس بأخ لك . قال عمر بن الخطاب (رضي الله عنه) : لا خير في قوم ليسوا بناصحين ، و لا خير في قوم لا يحبون الناصحين .

Hence, if this brother or these brothers do not heed anything you say and you have done your duty of giving the sincere advice (nasihah) with utmost concern and compassion, then you have fulfilled your duty and what’s left is to pray that Allah brings them out of the intoxicated clouds they are engulfed in and shows them the guidance that will save them in the Hereafter.

Having dispensed with your duty, be wary of keeping their company continuously as the negative influence may rub off on you. Weakness of will, temptation, Shaytan and even curiosity may get the better of you.

We ask Allah to guide them to the Good and to keep us firm upon it. Amin

 

And Allah knows best.

 


[1] Meaning: “whoever sees you deviating from obeying Allah and it appears that you are satisfied [and pleased with] what you are on and he neither advises you nor forbids you [from doing it] then he has deceived you. Consider him as one of your hateful enemies because this is a position of someone who is your enemy and not a loving brother”. [Comment of the editor of the Risalat al-Mustarshidin, Shaykh `Abd al-Fattah Abu Ghuddah].

[2] See al-Muhasibi, Risalat al-Mustarshidin, p.71.

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