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Q. If a child has no contact or limited contact with their biological father, will they get any sins for not talking to him?

A.

One must fulfil one’s duties to parents which may take varying forms and intensities. The particulars of the situation are not known in this case hence no specific answer is possible. However, one may not disown nor completely ignore one’s father. Islam does not allow for severing the child-parent ties. It is narrated by Ahmad in his Musnad that the Prophet (SAW) said:

عن سهل عن أبــــيه عن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قال: أن لله عبادا لا يكلمهم الله يمة القيامة و لا يزكيهم و لهم عذاب أليم . قيل: من يا رسول الله؟ قال: متبر من والديه و راغب عنهما…

English:

From Sahl from his father from the Prophet (SAW) who said: “Indeed, Allah will have slaves on the Day of Judgment and will neither speak to them nor purify them and they will have a sever punishment. [The companions] asked: Who are they, Messenger of Allah? He replied: those who disown their parents and abandon them…”[1]

It may be that through opening a seemingly closed door of a distant father and renewal of a somewhat old and awkward relationship that a new connection and lease of joy may be allowed to bloom. This may be the beginning of a way in which the child can gain Paradise(al-jannah) by pleasing his/her father and bringing happiness into his life, i.e. a blessing waiting in disguise!

The Prophet (SAW) in numerous places prefaced the entering ofParadiseupon fulfilling the duties and kindness owed to parents – especially when they reach old age. In one narration the Prophet (SAW) said:

May he be cursed! May he be made low! May he be humiliated!

رغم أنف! ثم رغم أنف! ثم رغم أنف!

They asked: Who, O Messenger of Allah?

قيل: من يا رسول الله؟

He said: He whose parents, either one or both, attain old age and he does not enter Paradise.[2]

من أدرك أبويـــه عند الكبر أحدهما أو كليهما ثم لم يدخل الجنـــة .

Allah alone grants success.

 


[1] See Ahmad, al-Musnad, hadith no.15083.

[2] Narrated by Muslim in his Sahih, hadith no.2551 from Abu Hurayrah (RA). See also Imam al-Nawawi’s commentary in Sharh Sahih Muslim, p.1832. The narration is also found in the Musnad of Ahmad, 2/340; the Sahih of Ibn Hibban, hadith no.908; al-Bayhaqi’s Shu`ab al-Iman, hadith no.7884; al-Hakim in the Mustadrak, vol.1, p.459; al-Tirmidhi in the Sunan, hadith no.3545 and al-Asbahani, Targhib wa ’l-Tarhib, hadith no.1817.

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