Q & A
Q. At the current time, you find so many people blaming Muslime [sic.] men, because of they are very oppressive and demean women, in terms of marriage and dress code. How Muslim men deal this kind of question?
Several points are in order here. Firstly, the blame gets attributed to Muslim men because often we bring the blame upon ourselves. Thus, instead of learning the correct rules and rulings stated in the Shari`ah from people of knowledge, we – with our very little knowledge of Islam – seek to impart even less to our spouses. We also regrettably fail to communicate to them the enormous and esteemed rights given to them by Allah (SWT). We deny them the right to learn the Din and study; we deny them ownership of property; we deny them the right to work and seek a career; we often than not play with double standards in that we hasten to invoke the Shari`ah rulings when it suits us but deny them the full access to impartial information of the Shari`ah regarding their rights and demands. There are many more instances and the list can run long and bleak.
However, if your question is about Muslim men being attacked for the rulings ordained by the Shari`ah such as the hukm of the khimar and jilbab or that a man is allowed to marry four women by the media sensationalists, then you are right in that Muslim men are absolved from this ‘blame’ as they are decrees of Allah (SWT) and no-one has the power to alter, twist or change them.
In terms of dealing with these problems of denying our women their due rights and demands as well as combating the relentless Media onslaught against theShari`ah, it may be that we need:
1) To strengthen our understanding of the Islamic creed (`aqidah) and the thoughts of that creed.
2) To understand the correctShari`ah rulings regarding the rights, duties, demands and obligations of both women and men in their private and social contexts.
3) To have a clearer understanding of the wisdom (hikam), benefits and positive outcomes from the Islamic rulings, especially those pertaining to social norms, e.g. dress codes, etc..
4) To be aware of the attack on the Shari`ah in general and hence Islam (e.g. it is barbaric, oppressive to women, patriarchal, etc.) and the dangers of secularising Islam, i.e. by taking the rulings regarding the social, legal, political and economic spheres from a non-Islamic source and basis and the rulings for personal devotion (`ibadat) from an Islamic source and basis.
And with Allah alone is all succes
 The word hukm (pl. = ahkam) usually ‘translates as ‘Islamic ruling’ or ‘injunction’ or ‘law’. More technically as defined by the Jurists of the Hanafi school, it is: “”. Imam Sadr al-Shari`ah, al-Tawdih, See also the Kitab al-Ta`rifat of Imam al-Jurjani, p.97.