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Q. Some brothers says [sic.] if I stop smoking I will stop every haram; think I am doing girls, rapping, friends/hangs –etc. What can you say to them brothers?


It is unfortunate that Muslims make quick judgments about their fellow brother (or sister) unaware that having the best possible opinion of a Muslim (husn al-zann) is of one of the best characteristics of a believer and the best of us are those that have the best character as mentioned in the noble ahadith (prophetic narrations):

Hadith 1:

On the authority of Abu’ l-Darda’ [RA] who reported that the Prophet (SAW) said: There is nothing which weighs heavier in the balance than good character.[1]


حدثنا أبو الوليد قال حدثنا شعبة عن القاسم بن أبى برزة قال سمعت عطاء الكيخارانى عن أم الدرداء عن أبى الدرداء عن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قال: ما من شيء في الميزان أثقل من حسن الخلق .

Hadith 2:

On the authority of `Abd Allah b. `Amr who said: The Prophet (SAW) was neither coarse nor loud. He used to say: The best of you is the one who has the best character.[2]


حدثنا محمد بن كثير قال: حدثنا سفيان عن الأعمش عن أبى وائل عن مسروق عن عبد الله بن عمرو قال: لم يكن النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) فاحشا ولا متفحشا وكان يقول: خياركم أحاسنكم أخلاقا .

Hadith 3:

On the authority of `Amr b. Shu`ayb who reported from his father from his grandfather that the Prophet (SAW) said: Shall I tell you about who among you I love the most and the one who will be seated closest to me on the Day of Resurrection? The people were silent, so he repeated that [request] two or three times. Then the people said: Yes, Messenger of Allah. He said: The one among you with the best character.[3]


حدثنا عبد الله بن صالح قال: حدثني الليث قال حدثني يزيد بن الهاد عن عمرو بن شعيب عن أبيه عن جده أنه سمع النبي (صلى الله عليه و سلم) يقول: أخبركم بأحبكم إلى وأقربكم منى مجلسا يوم القيامة فسكت القوم فأعادها مرتين أو ثلاثا قال القوم: نعم يا رسول الله! قال: أحسنكم خلقا .

Hadith 4:

On the authority of Abu Hurayra (RA) who reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: I was sent to perfect good character.[4]


حدثنا إسماعيل بن أبي أويس قال: حدثني عبد العزيز بن محمد عن محمد بن عجلان عن القعقاع بن حكيم عن أبى صالح السمان عن أبى هريرة أن رسول الله (صلى الله عليه و سلم) قال: إنما بعثت لأتمم صالحي الأخلاق .

Hadith 5:

On the authority of `A’isha (RA) who said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) was never given a choice between two things except that he chose the easier of the two as long as it was not a wrong action. If it was a wrong action then he was the last person to do it. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) never took revenge on his own behalf. But when the respect of Allah Almighty was violated, he would take revenge on behalf of Allah Almighty.[5]


حدثنا إسماعيل قال: حدثني مالك عن بن شهاب عن عروة عن عائشة (رضي الله عنها) انها قالت: ما خير رسول الله (صلى الله عليه و سلم) بين أمرين إلا اختار أيسرهما ما لم يكن إثما. فإذا كان إثما كان أبعد الناس منه وما انتقم رسول الله (صلى الله عليه و سلم) لنفسه إلا أن تنتهك حرمة الله تعالى فينتقم لله عز و جل بها .

Hadith 6:

On the authority of `Abd Allah who said: Allah Almighty divided out your character between you as He divided your provision between you. Allah Almighty bestows wealth on those He loves and those He does not love. He only gives faith to those He loves. Whoever is stingy about spending his wealth and fears to fight the enemy and is in terror of enduring the night should repeat frequently: There is no god but Allah! Glory be to Allah! Praise be to Allah! And Allah is The Greatest![6]


حدثنا محمد بن كثير قال: أخبرنا سفيان عن زبيد عن مرة عن عبد الله قال: ان الله تعالى قسم بينكم أخلاقكم كما قسم بينكم أرزاقكم وان الله تعالى يعطي المال من أحب ومن لا يحب ولا يعطي الإيمان إلا من يحب فمن ضن بالمال أن ينفقه وخاف العدو أن يجاهده وهاب الليل أن يكابده فليكثر من قول لا إله إلا الله، وسبحان الله, والحمد لله، والله أكبر.           

It is also not the trait, character or behaviour of a Muslim that he/she finds faults in other Muslims. Indeed, finding faults or making accusations or incorrect assumptions about another are of low standards in our Islamic moral behaviour. Ibn `Abbas (RA) said: “When you want to mention your companion’s faults, remember your own faults.”[7]


حدثنا محمد قال حدثنا بشر بن محمد قال: حدثنا عبد الله قال: حدثنا إسرائيل بن أبى إسحاق عن أبى إسحاق عن أبى يحيى عن مجاهد عن بن عباس قال : إذا أردت أن تذكر عيوب صاحبك فاذكر عيوب نفسك .

            Therefore, just because you smoke it does not necessarily imply that you do all the serious things you mentioned. I would perhaps approach the brother(s) who make these judgments about you in the best possible way and tell them how you feel so that any ill-feeling that may exist is eliminated.


And with Allah is all success.



[1] Narrated by Bukhari in Adab al-Mufrad, no. 270. See also the following: Ibn Qani`, Mu`jam al-Sahabah, 2:251; the Musnad of Ahmad, 6/446, al-Tayalisi, no. 978 and `Abd b. Humayd, no. 204; Ibn Hibban, Sahih, no. 481; al-Tabarani, Makarim al-Akhlaq, no. 4; al-Khara’iti, Makarim al-Akhlaq, no. 56; Ibn Abi Shabah, al-Musannaf, no. 25323; Abu dawud, no. 4799 and al-Tirmidhi, no. 2003 both in their Sunan; Ibn Wahb in al-Jami`, no. 489 as well as Ibn al-A`rabi, no. 2379 in his and finally Abu Nu`aym in Hilyat al-Awliya’, 5:243.

[2] Narrated by Bukhari in Adab al-Mufrad, no. 271 as well as Sahih, no. 6029. It was also narrated bu Ibn Hibban, Sahih, no. 477; al-Baghawi, Sharh al-Sunnah, no. 3666; al-Musannaf of Ibn Abi Shaybah, no. 25317; al-Bayhaqi, Sunan, 10:192; al-Khara’iti, Makarim al-Akhlaq, no. 28 and al-Asbahani, al-Targhib wa’l-Tarhib, no. 1202.

[3] Narrated by Bukhari in Adab al-Mufrad, no. 272. See as well Ahmad in the Musnad, 2/185; al-Khara’iti, Makarim al-Akhlaq, no. 26; Ibn Hibban, Sahih, no. 485 and al-Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-Iman, no. 7986.

[4] Narrated by Bukhari in Adab al-Mufrad, no. 273. see also Ahmad, Musnad, 3/381, al-Hakim in al-Mustadrak `ala al-Sahihayn, 2:613; al-Quda`i, Musnad al-Shihab, no. 1165; al-Khara’iti, Makarim al-Akhlaq, no. 1; al-Bazzar, Musnad, no. 2470; Ibn Sa`d, Tabaqat, 1:151; al-Tahawi, Sharh Mushkil al-Athar, no. 4432; Ibn `Asakir, Tarikh, 19:252; al-Bayhaqi in Sunan al-Kubra, 10:192 and Shu`ab al-Iman, no. 7978.

[5] Narrated by Bukhari in Adab al-Mufrad, no. 274; Imam Malik in the Muwatta’, no. 2627; Bukhari in his Sahih, no. 3560, 6126, 6786; Abu Ya`la in the Musnad, no. 4365; Ahmad in his Musnad, 6/115; Ibn Sa`d in the Tabaqat, 1:275; Humaydi in his Musnad, no. 258; Abu Dawud, Sunan, no. 4785, al-Bayhaqi, Sunan al-Kubra, 7:41; al-Baghawi, Sharh al-Sunnah, no. 3703; al-Musannaf of `Abd al-Razzaq, no. 17942; Ibn Hibban, Sahih, no. 488; Abu Nu`aym, Hilyat al-Awliya’, 8:126 and al-Tabarani in the Mu`jam al-Awsat, no. 2939.

[6] Narrated by Bukhari in his Adab al-Mufrad, no. 275; al-Tabarani in Mu`jam al-Kabir, no. 8990; al-Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-Iman, no. 607 and Abu Nu`aym in Hilyat al-Awliya’, 5:35.

[7] Narrated by Bukhari in his Adab al-Mufrad, no.328. It was also narrated by Ibn abi al-Dunya in al-Samt, no.194; Ahmad in the Kitab al-Zuhd, no. 1044; al-Bayhaqi in Shu`ab al-Iman, no. 6758 and is slightly weak due to the narrator Yahya b. al-Fattat. See the Taqrib of al-Hafiz Ibn Hajar al-`Asqalani.


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